An anonymous student writes for the University of East Anglia’s The Drop on their experience of being unable to come out at university:
Over time I’ve had to deal with a variety of painful issues, but the most prevalent has been my sexuality. It has taken me all of my life to come to terms with the fact that I am attracted to the same gender; I am gay.
Admitting this to myself has been hard enough, so the concept of admitting it to others is a mind-blowingly ludicrous. However, here at UEA there is a huge support network for the LGBT community, and of course psychological support offered by the Dean of Students. So why haven’t I taken the plunge yet?
Moving out of my parents’ home last year and into halls was an exciting time. Freshers week was great, and I really got to know and love my flatmates. However, I soon began to realise that so much of University is focused around sex. When the topic is brought up, I always try to leave the room. It is awkward; these people do not know my true feelings.
I find it difficult to lie to them, but I am scared of their reactions if I tell them the truth.
I enjoy playing sports and keeping fit. This male-dominated aspect of my life has nothing to do with my sexuality, and I never use the opportunity to check out the guys. But what if they knew I am gay? Would I still be accepted as a team-mate, or abolished as an outsider?
Full article here.